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Your reaction matters.

For every action there is a reaction. And, as much as we may wish we can control the actions -- we cannot always do so. What we can control, however, is our reaction. For instance, when something happens to you that may cause you to stress out, cry, or throw your hands up in defeat, you aren't doomed. You have a choice. 
(1) Are you going to let the action defeat you? Are you going to forfeit your happiness? Are you going to stay smug by withholding your forgiveness or failing to find acceptance? Are you going to let the other forces at play win? Are you going lose your ability to love?
(2) Are you going to get over yourself and come out on top? Are you going to let love lead and heal? Are you going to find your happiness by letting ill feelings go? Are you going to move forward with forgiveness and acceptance? 
It is easier said than done, I know. But, practice makes perfect. So, start practicing today. 
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Gratitude attitude

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Nothing. There is no difference at all. Well, other than one comes with a feast and the other does not. 
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Love is an action

"Your actions speak so loudly, I cannot hear what you are saying" -- Ralph Waldo Emerson
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It works. Sometimes. But only for a short time.
Eventually, actions show through and we are able to fully discover the real person who has been yapping all along. Come on, you've all experienced this at some point in life.
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God. And, I have been called to follow him.
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Quench your thirst

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