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Hang up and try your call again

You decide to call your best friend. You dial the number and put the phone up to your ear, patiently waiting to hear the sound of ringing.... and knowing that your friend will be on the other end of the line soon. But, the ringing never happens. Instead, you hear a loud chiming noise that causes you to pull the phone away from your ear and form your face into a dramatic perplexed look. Why on earth did you get the operator instead of your friend? 

"The telephone number you are calling has been disconnected. Please check the number you are calling and dial again. Goodbye." 

But wait! What?! Don't hang up! I want my friend! What do you mean its disconnected!? Where did my friend go?! Why would she do that without telling me?! And how do you just tell someone that a number is disconnected and then say goodbye?! Its like telling me my friend disappeared with no explanation! Sigh. What to do? 

Do you ever feel this way? Like you are disconnected to something or someone? From your family, your friends, your job, your life, God? D - All of the above? I think we all do at some point, whether emotionally or spiritually.  

In fact, I seem to have a few days every month or two when I feel this way. Including now. It doesn't last long, but I think it happens when I have a lot of things on my plate - juggling different tasks and people. Its hard to concentrate and focus and I seem to place God on the back burner, as much as I hate to admit that.  
The important thing is that I know I am not the only one who feels this way from time to time. Come on, you know you have felt this way. Yes, you. The one reading this who is shaking his head feeling pity for my disconnect. Or, maybe the one who is shaking her head in agreement because she is feeling lost a lonely now, too. 

Whether you are out of touch now, have been in the past, or may be in the future, Ive learned some tips that I try to follow myself. 

Time for yourself. This is important. Make sure that you are not letting the actions of your day take up all the minutes of your day. Whether its time for yourself to read a book, watch a movie, take a long hot bath... you need to make time. If you are a list maker, add it to your list. If you go by a strict schedule, pencil 'me time' in. If you are like me and you try to plan but life never goes as planned, put a reminder in your phone to continuously ding every 9 minutes until you STOP and do something for yourself. Sometimes just taking a few minutes to step away can allow your mind to re-focus. 

Talk to your spouse, family or friend. Let them know how you are feeling. Perhaps there is something they can say to make you feel a little less disconnected. Or maybe a long hug and a laugh can give you what you need. And, sometimes, just feeling the connection to a loved one is enough to bring you right back to your happy place!  

Pray on it. (This probably should have been numero uno on the list. But, hey, lets just say I saved the best for last.) God can work miracles. And if you are feeling disconnected, hopeless, overwhelmed. yadda yadda yadda.... chances are He can help. 

I don't know about you, but when I am feeling disconnected, I tend to turn inwards. I don't talk too much to others, and that includes God. We get a little lost in our thoughts and in our selves. God knows what we are thinking, so when we are lost in our thoughts and they aren't focused on Him, well, that could be our first problem, don't ya think? So, Pray. Talk to God. Let Him know what is going on and ask for mercy. You can share anything you want with Him. The more you talk, the more you pray, the more connected you will feel. I promise.

Disclaimer: The above won't dissolve disconnected feelings for forever. But, when I am down, these are just a few ideas that help. I thought maybe they can help you, too. I cannot guarantee they will work, just as you cannot guarantee you will use them. 

If nothing else, when you are not feeling like yourself, let this be your mantra until ya get back to where you belong: 

And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow - not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below - indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39

In other words... HE has got your back, baby. You are in good hands. Now, go smile and plug yourself back in!


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